Reading Selections for Yom Kippur Adult Discussion


Saturday, October 4th, 2:00 – 4:00 pm
Small Chapel,  ERUUF 4907 Garrett Road,  Durham NC

Reading Selections 1-3

1) Zen story:

Two traveling monks reached a town where there was a young woman waiting to step out of her sedan chair. The rains had made deep puddles and she couldn’t step across without spoiling her silken robes. She stood there, looking very cross and impatient. She was scolding her attendants. They had nowhere to place the packages they held for her, so they couldn’t help her across the puddle.

The younger monk noticed the woman, said nothing, and walked by. The older monk quickly picked her up and put her on his back, transported her across the water, and put her down on the other side. She didn’t thank the older monk; she just shoved him out of the way and departed.

As they continued on their way, the young monk was brooding and preoccupied. After several hours, unable to hold his silence, he spoke out. “That woman back there was very selfish and rude, but you picked her up on your back and carried her! Then she didn’t even thank you!”

I set the woman down hours ago,” the older monk replied “Why are you still carrying her?”

2) Maya Angelou“I don’t know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, ‘Well, if I’d known better I’d have done better,’ that’s all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, ‘I’m sorry,’ and then you say to yourself, ‘I’m sorry.’ If we all hold on to the mistake, we can’t see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can’t see what we’re capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one’s own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that’s rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don’t have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.”


3) a total stranger one black day – e.e. cummings

a total stranger one black day
knocked living the hell out of me–
who found forgiveness hard because
my(as it happened)self he was
-but now that fiend and i are such
immortal friends the other’s each



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Still enrolling Sunday School students for 2014-2015

Currently enrolling ages K through B’nai Mitzvah classes for 2014-2015.

Please check out our website for further information, including the Sunday School tab, and reach out to our Education Direction (noted below) if you need further assistance.  Looking forward to hearing from you!

Click here to Contact our Education Director, Linda Frankel.

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High Holidays 2014


Guest Speaker, Rabbi Miriam Jerris, Society for Humanistic Judaism
Wednesday, September 24th, 7:30 pm
Sanctuary, Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship (ERUUF)
4907 Garrett Road, Durham, NC

Rabbi Jerris will speak on the topic of “How do Humanistic Jews have Awe and Spirituality”.

Please join us as we observe the High Holidays!Call (919) 230-1606 or click here to send an email for Kol Haskalah High Holiday Tickets and/or to make childcare reservations.


Saturday, September 27th 2:30 -3:30pm

Chapel Hill Public Library
100 Library Drive

Friday, October 3rd, 7:30 pm
Sanctuary, ERUUF
4907 Garrett Road
Durham, NC


Saturday, October 4th, 2:00 – 4:00 pm
Small Chapel,  ERUUF 4907 Garrett Road

Durham, NC  



Saturday, October 4th, 4:00 pm

Sanctuary, ERUUF

4907 Garrett Road

Durham, NC

Potluck Break The Fast to Follow in the Fellowship Hall

Suggested donations by cash or check for non-members is $72 per family or $36 for an individual which includes all events. If you become a member after the High Holidays, this fee will be deducted from your dues.


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Open House Sunday August 24, 2014

Come Learn About Humanistic Judaism and Eat Dim Sum!    

Sunday, August 24th,10:00 – 12:00 am
Murphy Hall, UNC-Chapel Hill Campus

The Open House will feature a filmed talk by Rabbi Sherwin Wine, the founder of Humanistic Judaism. Please RSVP to Linda Frankel at or 919-929-5233.

Also, David Sennett will  introduce a new class on the historical roots of Judaism for adults and post-Mitzvah students. For the first semester, the class will meet during Sunday School on the following dates; September 7th, 21st; October 26; November 9th, 23rd and December 7th. There will be a small fee of $30/semester. The second semester will begin in January after the winter break.

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Calls to Action (Tikkun Olam)

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Sunday, July 27, 2014

This month, please consider helping Kol Haskalah, along with Judea Reform and Beth El, provide dinners to homeless and hungry people in Durham. We serve over 200 people each month and the number keeps growing. We feed all ages, all backgrounds, all religions.

We need donations of casseroles, cookies, large cans of green beans, sweetened iced tea, shredded cheese and peanut butter and jelly (there are so many kids now!).

You can drop off the food at Judea Reform by Friday, July 25 or take supplies directly to the shelter on Sunday, July 27th. Please let me know what you can donate so I can coordinate with the other congregations. Contact Francis Presma at or 919-451-6207. We would love to have more participation from Kol Haskalah in this mitzvah.

Also, please consider joining the prep crew to prepare and serve meals to help the needy and hungry; it’s fun and a minimal time commitment. We begin at 4:15 p.m. and are usually finished by 5:45. Children over 13 (and Pre-Bar and Bat Mitzvah) may use time working on these dinners as part of their community service activities. What better way to teach what Humanistic Judaism really means. Contact Frances Presma if you would like to sign up.

Tuna Casserole Recipe

2 bags of noodles (any kind)

3 carrots and 3 celery stalks, chopped

2 large cans of cream of mushroom soup (Food Lion has their own brand)

6-7 cans of chunk light tuna, drained

Cook noodles, blend all ingredients together, put in disposable tin (one really big or twomedium ones). You can deliver anytime to Judea Reform for them to freeze in advance or deliver fresh on Sunday to the Community kitchen. So easy! Prepare when you have time.


We continue to collect non-perishable foods for the food banks and old towels/blankets for the animal shelters. We also collect soaps, shampoos, etc. (all those samples that we get and never use) and donate them to the Durham Women’s shelter. Please bring to any congregation event. We will deliver for you!   ~Renee and Burt Rauch


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Marv Axelrod on WCOM 103.5fm, 3/20/14, 6-6:630pm

Thursday, March 20th from 6-6:30pm Kol Haskalah’s own Marv Axelrod will be interviewed live on WCOM, 103.5fm (Carborro, about his experiences with and vast knowledge of humanistic Judiasm.
Please contact Marv directly if you have any questions: (919) 973-2070.
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Pesach: April 19th, 2014

Join us as we celebrate Pesach with humanistic Haggadah and songs!

April 19th from 4:30 to 8:00 PM (Service at 5:30pm)

Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship (ERUUF)***

Fellowship Hall
Durham, NC


  • Cost for Members: $17.50 adults (15 or older) $8.00 ages 10-14 $6.00 ages 5-9, Under 5 Free($50 maximum per family; $5 less/person for vegetarians)
  • Cost for Non-Members: $25.00 adults (15 or older) $8.00 ages 10-14 $6.00 ages 5-9, Under 5 Free($65 maximum per family; $5 less/person for vegetarians)
  • NOTE: Reservation AND check must be received by April 10th. Please send your check (made out to Kol Haskalah) to: Marielle Belhassen, 961 Palace Garden Way. Raleigh, NC 27603.

Please bring a dish to share that will serve at LEAST 8 OTHER PEOPLE.
We look forward to tasting your holiday specialty! Please bring your own serving utensils (labeled.)
We will provide chicken, matzos, sacramental wine, grape juice, and cold drinks. You are welcome to bring your own wine for the dinner. For more info., please call 968-7888 or email or

Volunteers are needed for set-up, clean-up and help with errands, etc. Please email Marielle at if you can help. Thank you!

****** ERUUF, 4907 Garrett Rd, Durham (6/10 mile east of 15-501, on the left) Click for directions/parking info***


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Chanukah Celebration 2013 Photos

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A Conversation with NC Senator Josh Stein

Monday, November 18 at 5 p.m: a conversation with NC Senator Josh Stein about his experiences as a Jewish member of the NC legislature. The event, co-sponsored by Kol Haskalah, will take place at UNC Hillel, 210 W. Cameron Ave. in Chapel Hill. His niece, Hannah Eichner, is our fourth grade Sunday School teacher!

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Chanukah and Christmas:The Winter Holiday Lights in Our Life

Please Join Us!

 Chanukah and Christmas–The Winter Holiday Lights in Our Life

Sunday–Nov 17th


Murphy Hall, UNC Campus

Jenn Sessler and Marv Axlerod will discuss the differences and similarities between Christmas and Chanukah–two holidays that add light and festivity to the winter season.  Discussion will include traditions, meanings, history and modern Humanistic Jewish perspective.

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